Setaú úta (setauuta) wrote,
Setaú úta

Running out of time?

So, one of my co-workers (the former cheerleader) is about two months younger than I am. So she's 25. Her best friend just found out last month that she's pregnant (by the guy she's been with for seven years), and today he proposed to her. So, now she's engaged.

This has led to a huge-honkin' rant from my co-worker, who is single currently. As far as she's concerned, she's running out of time to meet someone, get to know him, plan the wedding, and have her first kid. She wants to do all of this by the time she's 30, because she seems to believe that after that will be too late for any of it.

Now, I admit that I was the one who proposed to Eric. And I admit that I was engaged once before (to Matt, and the actual engagement lasted about a month before we realized that it was too big a step). With Matt, I honestly think it had more to do with the fact that I felt him moving away, and I wanted to keep him with me. It was a bad reason, and thank heavens we realized that before things got much further. Though, I will admit that I miss the ring - it was pretty.

Even for all that, I can't say that I ever really had the wedding crazies. I kinda figured that I would get married eventually, and that was enough for me. I wasn't in a hurry to get married in general - I wanted to marry ERIC, specifically, not horribly long after I moved in with him and realized that this kind of life was something I could definitely get used to. I never felt that much of a rush to get married and have kids or anything like that, and I certainly don't feel like I'm too old (well, not in that regard - with regards to school, that's a whole other post).

So, tell me - is this running timer a common phenomenon? (Doo doo de-doo doo) And does it usually hit at 25? It just struck me as odd, is all.

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